Why Your Calendar Shouldn't Be Your To-Do List (And How Self-Manager Handles Real-Life Tasks)

Introduction

Most people understand why they need a calendar: to keep track of meetings, appointments, and events that happen at a specific time.

But somewhere along the way, a trend appeared: "Just put all your tasks on your calendar. Time-block everything. Treat every task like a meeting."

For some people this works. For many of us, it doesn't.

Because in real life, tasks don't behave like calendar events.

In this article, I'll explain why I don't believe your calendar should be your main to-do list, and how I designed Self-Manager—the task manager I founded—to handle real-life work: flexible tasks, changing priorities, unfinished items, and the actual story of what happened in your day.

Events vs Tasks: Fixed vs Flexible

A simple distinction changed how I work:

Events are fixed.

A meeting at 10:00 happens at 10:00. A doctor's appointment at 15:30 happens at 15:30. You don't "drag and drop" these around your week without consequences.

Tasks are flexible.

You can do them earlier or later. You can change the order mid-day. You can pause halfway through. And sometimes, you simply don't finish them today.

When you force tasks into calendar slots as if they were fixed events, a few problems appear:

• You end up with a calendar full of fake meetings.
• You spend more time rescheduling than actually doing the work.
• You feel guilty every time you don't follow the plan minute by minute.
• Everything looks equally important because everything has a time block.

Real life is messier and more dynamic than a perfect time-blocked grid.

That's why I prefer a different approach: Use the calendar for commitments and a task manager for intentions.

A Date-Centric Way to Manage Tasks

Time passes in days, weeks, and months — so your tasks should live on dates too.

On Self-Manager, the task manager I built, the core idea is simple:

Instead of stuffing everything into the calendar, Self-Manager structures your data by date, and then adds layers that reflect how we actually work:

• You still have special task lists (for example: by project, focus area, or type of work).
• But every task is anchored in time through dates, not rigid time slots.

So your day looks more like:

• "These are the tasks I want to do today."
• "These are the tasks I've planned for this week."
• "This project's tasks stretch over this period."

You get the clarity of scheduling without pretending that each task is a fixed event.

How Tasks Work in Self-Manager

To model real life, each task in Self-Manager isn't just a title with a checkbox. It has useful attributes that describe its journey from idea to completion.

1. Priority and Status

Every task has:

• Priority – so you can see what matters most at a glance.
• Status – for example: not started, in progress, completed, blocked, etc.

This reflects reality:

• Some tasks matter more than others.
• Some are stuck.
• Some are ongoing.
• Some are done and you never want to think about them again.

Instead of forcing tasks into time slots, you work from prioritized lists that are anchored to dates.

2. Time Tracking Built Into Tasks

Each task in Self-Manager can have time tracked directly on it.

You can:

• Start and stop a timer while you work, or
• Log time manually if that suits you better.

This gives you a realistic picture of:

• How long different types of work actually take.
• Where your day goes.
• Which projects consume most of your time.

It also helps you answer questions like: "Why did today feel so busy even though I didn't finish everything?"

Because sometimes you did a lot—you just spent that time on deep tasks, interruptions, or urgent work that wasn't initially planned.

3. Automatic Timestamps: What Really Happened and When

Each task in Self-Manager tracks key timestamps:

• Last edited at – when you last changed something about the task.
• Started at – when you actually began working on it.
• Completed at – when you finished.

This tells the story of the task:

• Maybe you created it 2 weeks ago…
• Started it yesterday…
• And finally completed it today.

This kind of timeline is nearly impossible to get from a purely calendar-based workflow where tasks are just dragged between time blocks.

Comments and Notes: Capturing the Context

Tasks don't exist in a vacuum. Projects and days are full of decisions, changes, and insights.

That's why Self-Manager also gives you:

• Comments on tasks or projects
• Notes tied to days or specific work

You can use these to capture things like:

• Why you changed direction mid-project
• What blocked you on a specific day
• Outcomes from a call or meeting
• Ideas you don't want to lose, but don't want to turn into tasks (yet)

Over time, you don't just see a list of finished tasks. You see the context: what happened, why, and when.

Why This Works Better Than a Calendar-Only Approach

Putting everything into the calendar assumes a level of control we rarely have.

A date-centric task manager like Self-Manager acknowledges:

• You'll change the order of tasks.
• You'll not finish everything on some days.
• You'll have days where unexpected work takes over.
• You still need a clear picture of what got done and what moved forward.

The structure in Self-Manager supports that reality:

• Dates organize your work in a way that matches how life moves.
• Lists, priorities, and statuses let you adapt during the day.
• Time tracking and timestamps show what actually happened.
• Comments and notes preserve the story behind your tasks and projects.

Instead of fighting your calendar all day, you work with a system that bends with your day instead of breaking when things don't go perfectly.

Final Thoughts

If using your calendar as a to-do list has left you with:

• A mess of rescheduled blocks
• Guilt every time the plan doesn't match reality
• A feeling that your system doesn't reflect how you actually work

…then it might be time to separate events from tasks.

Keep your calendar for real-time commitments. Use a date-centric task manager for your real work.

That's exactly why I built Self-Manager the way I did: to handle tasks the way they behave in real life, not how we wish they behaved in a perfect schedule.

If this resonates with you, you can explore Self-Manager at self-manager.net and see if this structure helps you work with time in a more realistic and less stressful way.

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Key Takeaways

• Events are fixed, tasks are flexible: Forcing flexible work into rigid time blocks creates more problems than it solves
• Date-centric beats time-blocking: Organize tasks by dates, not minute-by-minute slots, for realistic planning
• Priority and status matter: Not all tasks are equal—proper attributes help you focus on what matters most
• Time tracking reveals reality: See where your day actually goes, not where you planned it to go
• Timestamps tell the story: Track when tasks were created, started, and completed for true accountability
• Context is everything: Comments and notes preserve the why behind your work, not just the what